Posts Tagged ‘dreams’

frazzled………….. to say the least

Friday, March 19th, 2010

So I am halfway there…… and I am feeling it.  Run down, ragged, stressed, and ready for this to be done.  I feel like I have planned just about enough details, and it is wearing on my patience.   Not just that, but my sobriety.   Right now I have about 90 days clean time…… which is awesome, but everyday is a battle.

As far as my 90 days go, I could not have accomplished it without God and the help of my awesome friends, and of course- Mr. Culberson.  (Mostly God though……. to stop using after a 14 year streak honestly requires a miracle)

Bands are slowly coming together, however I just found out that the one we were relying on for a good majority of our entertainment for the evening only has about an hour set list.  So it’s back to the drawing board to get yet another band to add to the nights festivities.  I need someone that can play for a good two-three hours.  Hopefully I can find that band soon, in my budget.

We do have three bands booked right now though, which is awesome………….  one of my favorites Mue Sephei (you can check them out @ ) they are going to do the ceremony music and some light reception music , Mr. Culbersons band- Dreams Scar Reality (check them out @ ) and our third band is a cover band made up of the guitar player & singer from Dreams Scar Reality, and a girl named Jessica on bass.  They are pretty cool too.  So it looks like one of my top priorities is finding another band.

Moving on…………….. I picked out some bad ass tuxes.  They are a Calvin Klein 2 button shadow striped with teal vests and ties and black shirts.  Shoes are black & white patent leather.  The great debate now is weather the guys want to rent the tuxes I picked out.  Or go out and  buy a pair of black dress pants & a black shirt, ditch the vests, and wear a turquoise tie.  Then wear a pair of zebra stripe slip on Vans.

Here’s the tux:

Granted they look slick, but I know the jackets & vets will be ditched right after the ceremony.  If we do rent tuxes, we will be renting them from the Men’s Wearhouse.  They are located all over the nation, your men can be fitted wherever it is convenient for them and pick up the tux in your wedding location.  They also have great deals like rent 5 get the grooms free.  Rentals include two shirts (in case guys sweat through one), suspenders, cuff links, ties & vests, and shoes.  Rentals also start as low as $49 and go up to $169.

Other stuff of randomness………………….

We started to register.  We’re going with Target & taking Mrs. N’s advice and going for Bed Bath & Beyond.  My dad & sister are also going in on a car for us as a wedding gift…… which is cool.  For the past year we have been a slave to car pools, public transports & taxis.  It will be nice to have our own set of wheels again.

I’ve made some other changes too- our guest list is ever growing.  We’re at about 110.  So the 80 invitations I had bought were just not going to cut it.  I decided to return them and go with printed post card invites from Vistaprint, and do all of my RSVP’s by phone or web to save on paper and postage.  Once I get them ordered I’ll put a sample up here to show the world.  They’re much cheaper- and postage is cheaper.  Then for out of town guests, all of our lodging, directions, maps, areas of interest, general stuff will be on our website.  (I am working on a wedding website right now…… more details on that to follow…… stay tuned)

Anyway………………. I have about ten minutes to get my stuff together before I have to run out the door.   Thanks for reading my rant……. and if you have any ideas of what you think we should write about- let us know in our comment section.  We’d love to know.  Feedback is always appreciated.

thanking god, appreciating the small stuff ………… and marriage taboos

Saturday, February 27th, 2010

I was watching the National Geographic Channels show Taboo ( last night when they featured a show on certain “love & marriage” taboos, entitled Strange Love.  The ones they showcased were situations in today’s world that I thank God I am not involved in………….  a real-life “Lars and the Real Girl” relationship, when a man in the United States falls in love with a sex doll.  Australia,  a couple stays faithful by having sex with strangers. In poverty-stricken Nepal, innocence is lost when a 7-year-old child is sold as a bride for $15. Then, in the United Kingdom, a man defies one of his country’s strictest taboos by marrying seven women.  He was formerly a Jewish Rabbi.

It was an incredibly interesting show.  If you’ve never checked it out, I highly suggest it.  Especially if you’re into documentaries.  You can usually find it Wednesdays on NatGeo @ 10pm.

Anyway…………. enough of my preamble.  My point is not to poke fun at other peoples ways of life, or to mock or criticize.  Who you love should be your own choice, made by your own free will……………

That brings me to my actual point, and what I saw in this show that disgusted me……yet at the same time made me so entirely thankful.

Arranged childhood marriages.

They showcased a young “couple” to be wed in Nepal.  Both children were 7 years old.  The young girl was being sold by her family to his family for a mere $15.  They explained that as she aged, it would be more expensive to marry her off, so they needed to do it while she was still young.  After the wedding, both children would live apart, with their own families.  In ten years, they would have a 2nd wedding and at that time they would come together and unite in their marriage and start living together and starting a family.  Having only met one time before, at the age of seven at their first wedding.  What occurs is simple, a business transaction.  One that will affect these two people for the rest of their lives.

The Wedding - National Geographic

They had no choice in anything.  In being married, in having children, in spending the rest of their lives together.  Viewing this made me feel so many things………… I was on an emotional roller-coaster.  The most overwhelming response though was the feeling of gratitude.

I felt so grateful to be in my situation, even with a broke ass budget.  To be marrying the man of my dreams, the man of my choosing, at the age of 28………… not 8.  To have had my life experiences as an arsenal of knowledge to make this decision.  To be able to plan my own wedding.  So many little things I normally take for granted, I was now appreciating.

So my goal for now on is to notice the little things-  to take them in and savor them.  Moment by moment.  Piece by piece.  I will be aware, and grateful.