Posts Tagged ‘Bridal Registry’

frazzled………….. to say the least

Friday, March 19th, 2010

So I am halfway there…… and I am feeling it.  Run down, ragged, stressed, and ready for this to be done.  I feel like I have planned just about enough details, and it is wearing on my patience.   Not just that, but my sobriety.   Right now I have about 90 days clean time…… which is awesome, but everyday is a battle.

As far as my 90 days go, I could not have accomplished it without God and the help of my awesome friends, and of course- Mr. Culberson.  (Mostly God though……. to stop using after a 14 year streak honestly requires a miracle)

Bands are slowly coming together, however I just found out that the one we were relying on for a good majority of our entertainment for the evening only has about an hour set list.  So it’s back to the drawing board to get yet another band to add to the nights festivities.  I need someone that can play for a good two-three hours.  Hopefully I can find that band soon, in my budget.

We do have three bands booked right now though, which is awesome………….  one of my favorites Mue Sephei (you can check them out @  http://www.myspace.com/muesephei ) they are going to do the ceremony music and some light reception music , Mr. Culbersons band- Dreams Scar Reality (check them out @  http://www.myspace.com/dreamsscarreality ) and our third band is a cover band made up of the guitar player & singer from Dreams Scar Reality, and a girl named Jessica on bass.  They are pretty cool too.  So it looks like one of my top priorities is finding another band.

Moving on…………….. I picked out some bad ass tuxes.  They are a Calvin Klein 2 button shadow striped with teal vests and ties and black shirts.  Shoes are black & white patent leather.  The great debate now is weather the guys want to rent the tuxes I picked out.  Or go out and  buy a pair of black dress pants & a black shirt, ditch the vests, and wear a turquoise tie.  Then wear a pair of zebra stripe slip on Vans.

Here’s the tux:


Granted they look slick, but I know the jackets & vets will be ditched right after the ceremony.  If we do rent tuxes, we will be renting them from the Men’s Wearhouse.  They are located all over the nation, your men can be fitted wherever it is convenient for them and pick up the tux in your wedding location.  They also have great deals like rent 5 get the grooms free.  Rentals include two shirts (in case guys sweat through one), suspenders, cuff links, ties & vests, and shoes.  Rentals also start as low as $49 and go up to $169.

Other stuff of randomness………………….

We started to register.  We’re going with Target & taking Mrs. N’s advice and going for Bed Bath & Beyond.  My dad & sister are also going in on a car for us as a wedding gift…… which is cool.  For the past year we have been a slave to car pools, public transports & taxis.  It will be nice to have our own set of wheels again.

I’ve made some other changes too- our guest list is ever growing.  We’re at about 110.  So the 80 invitations I had bought were just not going to cut it.  I decided to return them and go with printed post card invites from Vistaprint, and do all of my RSVP’s by phone or web to save on paper and postage.  Once I get them ordered I’ll put a sample up here to show the world.  They’re much cheaper- and postage is cheaper.  Then for out of town guests, all of our lodging, directions, maps, areas of interest, general stuff will be on our website.  (I am working on a wedding website right now…… more details on that to follow…… stay tuned)

Anyway………………. I have about ten minutes to get my stuff together before I have to run out the door.   Thanks for reading my rant……. and if you have any ideas of what you think we should write about- let us know in our comment section.  We’d love to know.  Feedback is always appreciated.


Shopping with other people's money – the art of registering for gifts

Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010

I won’t lie, one of my favorite parts of the wedding planning process was registering for gifts that I would never have to buy for myself.  Or perhaps the idea of registering was the most fun…because I will admit, as a professional shopper (not really, but in my make-believe world), I found the process to be a little stressful.  There you are, all excited, with gun in hand.  Now what?  What do you need?  How much of it?  Where do you start?  Is it rude to register for the $600 orange standing mixer?  But what if I really want the $600 standing mixer?  I mean not enough that I would ever buy it for myself, but hey, if you’re buying…then I really want it.  I will admit, I was really ill prepared.  Plus I had my fiance’ with me, who does not enjoy shopping even a little bit, so after 45 minutes of chaos I agreed to just leave the store.

That’s when I discovered the online registry (insert angels singing here).  I mean, is there really anything better in the world than sitting in your pj’s at your computer and clicking away to your hearts content all the things that you desire??  Le Creuset casserole dish- check!  12 bottle wine cellar, check! Mellon baller (because everyone needs one!!)- check!  Totally and utterly addicting!  And totally and utterly dangerous!

I realized that I should have been better informed and prepared before jumping into these muddy waters.  Therefore, I have decided to take what I learned, all of my trade secrets, and share them with all of you newbies.

Tip # 1:  Pick 3 stores to register at.   The reason for this is that sometimes your favorite store is inconvenient for your guests.  You may love William Sonoma, but maybe your cousin out in Kansas doesn’t have one by her.  Make sure at least one of your options is a large franchise (like Bed, Bath and Beyond – but more about them later).  Also, make sure all of your stores have websites so people can buy your gift online if they so desire.

Tip # 2:  Don’t go anywhere without a plan of action.  My biggest mistake was walking into a store on a whim.  What I should have done was spent some time at home checking out my existing inventory as well as going on line to see what products are popular and what brands are good.  Decide what types of items you want to get and what you don’t want to get (China and crystal, for example).  Make a comprehensive list of what you plan on registering for.  If you are a member of My Wedding Binder (and if you are not…well I mean really, why aren’t you??) then you have access to the extremely helpful registry list that I created.  It tells you what items are important to register for from your dining room to your garage as well as how many of each items are necessary to have.

Tip # 3:  Make your registry eclectic.  Make shopping fun for your guests.  Nothing is more of a bummer than going to pick up a gift for a friends shower and realizing that all that is left is a toilet bowl cleaner and an electric nose hair trimmer.  People want to be excited about what they are getting for you so have a large variety of items that you want.  And make sure you update your registry (from home of course) so that your guests always have options (unless you just want money – than leave it alone!  They’ll get the hint eventually!) Additionally, be eclectic with your price ranges.  You know your guests better than anyone else.  Have a handful of really expensive items (for your rich great Aunt Gertrude and for your bridesmaids to chip in on), but also have a nice variety of price points so that people do not feel put off.  A big portion of your items should be in the $20-$30 range.

Tip # 4:  Consider store policy.  This is super important.  Some stores have the most amazing return policies and some totally suck.  Here is when I give my major shout out to Bed Bath and Beyond for being the most awesome and bride friendly store ever!!!  Lets discuss just how sick they are.  First, with their abundance of 20% off coupons in circulation, your guests would be hard pressed not to be able to get their hands on one to use when buying your gift.  Not only does BB&B take expired coupons (1998?  No problem), but they have ZERO restrictions!  That’s right, so that $600 standing mixer….just became $480!  This is the best place to register for your expensive items because they could be bought using a coupon, thus you are more likely to end up receiving those items.  The second thing that makes BB&B totally kick ass is that they have the absolute best return policy known to man.  Anything bought off your registry can be returned FOR CASH even if you have already used it!!  Yes, you read that correctly.  I got a set of knives that I kept throwing in the dishwasher (whoops) and they all rusted.  6 months later I brought them back, no box, no problem!  I got $80 back in cold, hard, cash!!  If you get something not from your registry, they will also take it back in any condition and give you store credit or an exchange.  You can not do better than that! (Psst – if you really want cash more than anything else, and you can’t find a good way to ask for it, just register for lots of gifts at BB&B and return them for cash afterwards!  Don’t tell anyone I told you that!!)

Tip # 5: Think outside the home goods store.  Are you currently living with your soon to be significant other?  Maybe you already have all the chafing dishes and garlic presses a person could possibly need.  Don’t get suckered into being traditional.  More and more couples these days are opting to register at stores that suit their needs better.  If you are moving into a new house, maybe you would prefer to register at Home Depot for renovation materials?  Planning on installing a pool or putting in a garden?  Check out registry options at specialty stores pertaining to your needs.  Mr. N and I actually registered for our honeymoon!  Guests had the option to contribute to the trip overall or purchase an activity for us (swimming with the dolphins, massages).  In reality, they really are just contributing to your honeymoon costs because the website just sends you a check for all of the money your guests contributed (so really, you can spend it however you want).  Check out www.honeymoonwishes.com to see how you can register for your honeymoon!

Whatever you do though, don’t be tacky.  As much as I’m sure you are craving those really cute jeans from Bloomies or that necklace you saw at Saks, make sure that your registry items are things that you can both use as a couple.