To Thy Self Be True

February 24th, 2010 by Madame RB

You said “yes” to the biggest question of your life (something more important then paper or plastic), you’ve told the world, you changed your Facebook status to “engaged”, you watched your ring sparkle from every angle (I found I liked admiring my newly engaged finger in the passenger side mirror while watching the diamonds catch the sunlight).  Ok now what?  All these decisions to make, but where to begin.  You know in your heart of hearts what you can afford, so don’t set yourself up for disappointment by expecting a huge wedding when you have a budget for McD’s.  Plus, nobody needs to go into extreme debt over a wedding.  At the end of the day,  no matter how much work you put into it or how fabulous you think your wedding was, outside of a couple of details, nobody’s life will be transformed by your big day. Unfortunately you will wind up remembering the happiest day of your life as the huge debt you are now carrying and will want to kick yourself every time you think about the doves you just had to release at the ceremony.

I think everyone is entitled to a wonderful wedding on any budget, but be true to yourself and figure out what details you absolute must have and what will set the tone for your party. If you think something is too much and not necessary, and you are doing it just because you can, save your money for a rainy day.  After all, we all hit bumps in the road, and somehow a car payment might be more important then rhinestones on your wedding cake. My over indulgent wedding detail was chocolate covered pretzels in hot pink bags with little labels that said “snack for the road”.  I still think it was a cute idea, but the amount of time and effort it took to put together 80 or so bags was so not worth it. Especially when many guests didn’t even see the bags and left without one, leaving me to take home tons of bags and eating chocolate covered pretzels for days. I forgot that people already had a great time, and ate lots of great food, and I didn’t need to give them anymore.

The bottom line is whether you have a million dollars or five hundred dollars to spend, there is always something more you can have or add; ideas and details are endless. Remember what is important to you and your future hubby, stay focused and stay organized (hint hint, helps like crazy!) and you will have an amazing wedding!

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One Response to “To Thy Self Be True”
  • the future mrs. culberson says:

    AMEN! To all of the above……………

    I keep going over tiny details, thinking about what would be nice…… only realizing deep in my heart that they really aren’t important to my special day. The pretzel story really put things into perspective………… love it :)


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