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Offbeat Bridal Dress Shots- session one 2.2010

Sunday, February 28th, 2010

I promised pictures of my impromptu wedding dress shoot were on the way and here I am to deliver…………..  like I said before this was an impromptu session with my friend & professional photographer Rochelle Nevedal (you can find her on facebook).  The only “wedding items” that were purchased were the dress, earrings ($4 @ Charlotte Russe)  and the purse (TJ Maxx- $30………. it is a Rampage clutch  http://www.rampage.com/ a similar black one retail for $127 on their website), everything else prop wise were items we had already owned and had around the house.

If you do an on location photo-shoot (this was done in her dining room) you can always use existing items around the house for props.  No need to buy additional items just for a photo-shoot .  Worried you may not having anything fun or funky? Stop looking at your stuff as a whole and break it down, look at individual pieces.  The fun purse your grandma left you before she died, that old globe or set of encyclopedias setting in the corner of your office, you already own great props…… you just have to find them.  Trust me, they’re there.  If you have the right photographer with the right vision, they’ll make it work and they will encourage you on your search.  Many photographers that share your vision will often have their own arsenal of props they own as well, as them and take advantage of what they have to use.

When choosing a photographer- find someone whose vision you share.  If you look at their portfolio and all you see is couples standing at the alter hand in hand, or embracing……….. when you want photos of you & your husband pushing each other in the carts at the laundry mat; chances are they will not be able to give you what you want.  It works the same reversed.

It is getting late and I have to get to bed………….. but I’ll elaborate more later on how to get better deals with photographers.  Stay tuned………….

Rochelle- if you’re reading this, you are amazing and I can’t wait for our engagement session! You made me look beautiful <3


thanking god, appreciating the small stuff ………… and marriage taboos

Saturday, February 27th, 2010

I was watching the National Geographic Channels show Taboo (http://channel.nationalgeographic.com/series/taboo/all/Overview) last night when they featured a show on certain “love & marriage” taboos, entitled Strange Love.  The ones they showcased were situations in today’s world that I thank God I am not involved in………….  a real-life “Lars and the Real Girl” relationship, when a man in the United States falls in love with a sex doll.  Australia,  a couple stays faithful by having sex with strangers. In poverty-stricken Nepal, innocence is lost when a 7-year-old child is sold as a bride for $15. Then, in the United Kingdom, a man defies one of his country’s strictest taboos by marrying seven women.  He was formerly a Jewish Rabbi.

It was an incredibly interesting show.  If you’ve never checked it out, I highly suggest it.  Especially if you’re into documentaries.  You can usually find it Wednesdays on NatGeo @ 10pm.

Anyway…………. enough of my preamble.  My point is not to poke fun at other peoples ways of life, or to mock or criticize.  Who you love should be your own choice, made by your own free will……………

That brings me to my actual point, and what I saw in this show that disgusted me……yet at the same time made me so entirely thankful.

Arranged childhood marriages.

They showcased a young “couple” to be wed in Nepal.  Both children were 7 years old.  The young girl was being sold by her family to his family for a mere $15.  They explained that as she aged, it would be more expensive to marry her off, so they needed to do it while she was still young.  After the wedding, both children would live apart, with their own families.  In ten years, they would have a 2nd wedding and at that time they would come together and unite in their marriage and start living together and starting a family.  Having only met one time before, at the age of seven at their first wedding.  What occurs is simple, a business transaction.  One that will affect these two people for the rest of their lives.

The Wedding - National Geographic

They had no choice in anything.  In being married, in having children, in spending the rest of their lives together.  Viewing this made me feel so many things………… I was on an emotional roller-coaster.  The most overwhelming response though was the feeling of gratitude.

I felt so grateful to be in my situation, even with a broke ass budget.  To be marrying the man of my dreams, the man of my choosing, at the age of 28………… not 8.  To have had my life experiences as an arsenal of knowledge to make this decision.  To be able to plan my own wedding.  So many little things I normally take for granted, I was now appreciating.

So my goal for now on is to notice the little things-  to take them in and savor them.  Moment by moment.  Piece by piece.  I will be aware, and grateful.


The beat goes on……. and this time I have new shoes to dance in

Friday, February 26th, 2010

All day long I have been rotating between two jobs, cleaning the kitchen and doing dishes…………. and looking for the perfect reasonably priced $200-ish wedding venue.  I think I just may have found it.  I have called galleries, campgrounds, VFW, UAW & K of C Halls……………  e-mailed private homes, ski lodges, recording studios………….. and relief seems to be coming in the form of a small American Legion Hall in town.   I think I’ll confirm the date tomorrow and get it set in stone.

As far as bands go, they seem to be coming together.  We have one already lined up.  Super excited.  This band is one of my favorite local bands.  I wear their t-shirt on a regular basis and see them at every opportunity.  More details on that to follow……… I’ll let the suspense build a little bit.  We are still looking for a good cover band that we can dance all night to.  If you are in the Traverse City, MI area and know of one, give me a shout.  I’d love to check them out.

Other wedding related nonsense…………..

I think I found my shoes.  At least I ordered my shoes.  Hopefully they will fit and everything will be good, so I won’t have to return them.  Also, I had a coupon…………. so I saved $8!  Here’s the shoes……

It was a strong tie between the turquoise and a pair with buckles on the toes in zebra print……………. but the turquoise pulled through because they matched the invites and will match the tux vests.  (I’m getting matchy on this here occasion)

Good news, if I do have to return them I can return them in store.  I ordered them from famous Footwear http://www.famousfootwear.com/  I found my $8 off coupon on this great website- retail me not.  On-line coupon codes for over 50,000 stores.  All you have to do is search by store name.  Check it out, best of all, it’s free http://www.retailmenot.com/

Moving on to other great deals…………

I was on E-Bay the other day looking for a Russian veil, and I happened to find one, with feathers & flowers for cheap.   So I bid on it.  I was outbid, so I bid again.  I won!  I got my veil!  It is on its way right now from Brighton, MI.  I am so excited.  This veil is exactaly what I was looking for.  It had never been worn, and originally purchased for $125.  I won the auction at $22.  With out further ado………….. here are pics.  Glorious pics.

Russian blusher veil................. some think they're tacky & dated...... THEY ARE! That's why I love them <3

Close up of feathers & flowers

I went and did a little shopping today, at one of my favorite on-line printers, Vista Print.  I was able to pick up 100 save the date postcards, a big vynal banner, a 2 sided yard sign & stand, custom letterhead, custom notecards, a stamp with our name & address, 250 businesscards for Mike, magnets (large & even larger), and return address labels WITH shipping for under $40.

Here’s a peek at some of the stuff I was able to pick up……….. as long as you can pick out one of their pre-made designs to work with, they have a ton of free stuff.  Want to use your own design or have them custom make one for you?  They do that too for pretty cheap.  These were all one of their presets though, and in our colors.  I was happy.

vynal banner

Yard sign with stand

I have had them print business related stuff for me too, it always comes out nice.  Check them out.  http://www.vistaprint.com  Be sure to sign up for their e-mail news so you get all of the free news sent to your e-mail box.  They will send you all of the specials that you can’t always find on the website.  You can also find coupons on the coupon site listed above.

Other than that, still waiting to hear back on the hall.  The little art gallery that used to be a church ended up being out of our price range.  Still more reasonable than many places we’ve checked out, but at $70 an hour for the entire place we can’t swing the length of reception we want there.  So, the search continues.


………the whole nine yards………..

Friday, February 26th, 2010

Hi- I am the future mrs. culberson.  I am moving over from another blog site, so I will post a brief version of what has been posted on the other site.  I will warn you-  I am a broke ass bride (total budget around $1,000), very DIY, and I am totally in love with the man of my dreams.  Almost everything I write about in regards to our wedding is either second hand, homemade, or talked down from the original price…….. cause’ that’s the way I roll.

So sit back, relax, put on your sexy specs………… and here we go………….

Woah………….. here we go!  My first real blog. “Like a virgin…….. “ Everybody- sing it together!

Ok, I’m quite over that.   Moving on…………..

I have always wanted to write………….. about everything.  My life, the chaos, art & love I create………….. more recently my family, my engagement & wedding planning, finding God in a devil driven society, and what it’s like to be bi-polar trying to hold it all together while staying sober.

I am recently out of rehab, and almost two months clean……………  and everyday is an adventure.

I invite you to join me in this journey I call life.  See things through my eyes, and together we’ll take it from there.

P.S.

Comment…………. give me your feedback.  Tell me what you like, what you don’t like……….. what you’d like to see, etc.

 

I went to one of my favorite stores the other day (TJ Maxx http://www.tjmaxx.com/ ) and was pleased to find wedding invites, favor bags, and a batchlorette party in a box all on sale for under $10!  In our wedding colors none the less.  (We are going with turquoise, white & black with hot pink accents)  I was able to get all of our invites, and other goodies for under $30!  What a steal.  I love that store.

Here’s the goods:

Invites- Retail $19.99, I paid $9

Favor boxes- retail $9.99, I paid $4

Batchlorette Party in a Box- Even includes the rhinestone tiara! Paid $4

I am so thrilled with the way the little things are coming along, this week I am going to look into renting our venue.  I have about $200 to work with.  (I warned you, I am broke ass)  I am also going to look into booking the two bands I want……… hoping to get them.

I was browsing CraigsList (one of my guilty pleasures) when I came across a size 8 first communion/flower girl dress.  My curiosity got the best of me and I checked it out.  Only $15 and this dress was beautiful.  I called and talked to the lady, and we agreed that maybe I would find a way to pick it up later this week.  In my mind I could not fathom a way to make this happen though because she lived out of town, and I don’t drive or have access to a car.  So for me to get out there is near impossible.

Anyway………………

Fast forward two hours ————>

I am napping and the phone rings.  It is the woman with the dress.  She is coming into town and wants to know if I would like to meet her.  I am psyched.

We end up meeting within the next thirty minutes at my house (I am so low on cash I have to use laundry quarters to buy the dress, lol) and the moral of the story is that it ends up being mine!  I walked away with Jades dress for our wedding, and for only $15.  The dress is beautiful………… and is everything I had ever wanted.

The beautiful $15 treasure

She is going to look so beautiful walking me down the aisle with my father in this dress.  All I can say is God is good….. and boy does he ever work in mysterious ways.

new day-

SO I had an hour to kill this afternoon.  I was waiting for the bus and there happened to be a resale store near the bus stop.  I figured I’d take a look.  Last time I was in there I found a hair crimper from the 80’s………. God only knows what I’d find this time.

I ditched my latte’ on the curb (no food or drinks) and worked my way into the store.  Something told me to look at dresses, though I never find cute dresses in my size at a reasonable price.  I pushed through the racks and worked my way back to formal gowns, then to wedding dresses.  Then I found one stuffed way in the back that actually was pretty cute, and the tag……….. well the tag must have been a misprint.  The tag said a 20.  It was a gorgeous halter style white Davids Bridal wedding gown,  and it was clearly marked as a size 20.  Odd, because I am a size 20………… and I needed a weeding dress.  Fate?

I figured it was just the dress size, and that it was maybe a 14/16 actual size….. but I’d try it on for shits & giggles.  I picked it up and worked my way towards the sales counter with the bulky dress bag.  I asked the ladies, did they know if it was a street 20, or a dress 20?  They weren’t sure, but they were confident that if I just tried it on it would fit.  I figured, why not.  I had an hour to kill and nothing to loose.  I ditched my street clothes and got out the dress.

It was as if that dress was made for me.  It fit perfectly.  It was even the exact length……….. and usually everything is too long for me because I am only 5′6″.  This was too bizarre.  The first dress I try on, and it fits.  Under the dress in the bag I find another bag, in it contains the crinolin slip…… everything to complete the look.

I had to call my friend who was going to make me a dress, Rochelle.  Could a dress be made for $$ (what this cost)?  It would work out to be about even.  Surely it would be cheaper to make a dress……….. not really.  The two worked out about equally.

I need a 2nd opinion…………… another girls opinion.  My friend and her mom will be getting out of work soon.  I call Karla and ask if they can stop by the store and give me some feedback.  They agree.  I am relieved……. and feeling a bit like a princess all dressed up in a wedding gown in the 2nd hand store.

Fast forward about an hour and a half ————>  I wait while they run a couple errands around town…….. just chilling at the store, donning full out bridal gear.  At this point I am in jewelry too, and heels……. just waiting.  La-tee-dah.

Finally they show up, and exclaim that I look beautiful!  Exactally what I needed to hear.  Music to my ears.  Now my soul could rest and I could buy the dress with ease.  Someone that knew my personality say a bit of myself in it.  This I like.  This makes me happy.

I undress quickly and put back on my jeans…………… and pack the dress up to head to my house.

Another thing on the to-do list crossed off…………… another day down, another day closer to wedded bliss.

To see pics of the dress, copy & paste this link in a new window……….. will post actual pictures later……….

http://www.davidsbridal.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplayView?storeId=10052&catalogId=10051&categoryId=-49995489&currentIdx=21&subCategory=-49999486|-49998998|-49995489&catentryId=6096907&sort=

trust me…………… you want to see it, it’s beautiful!

 

Last night Prince Charming & I stayed the night at our friends Rochelle & Matt’s house.  It is beautiful……….. and we had so much fun!  Imagine the eccletic contemporary, mixed with everything vintage, splashed with bold colors, and chalk board walls………….. toss in a lot of owls and vintage deer, and you get amazing wonderment that is their home.  To top it off we did some beautiful bridal dress pictures in their home.  I will be posting them as soon as they are edited.  Vintage hats, a turquoise vintage typewriter, brass knuckles, a silly mask, unique umbrellas…………… toss in my tattoos and the wedding dress & crinoline underneath.  With bare feet and pearls.  They are great.  I can’t wait to show you folks!

Bad news on the venue…….  the hall I was hoping for is booked on the weekend we want.  I am moving on to choice number two, playing a vicious game of phone tag hoping for a call back soon and an open space.  maybe this one won’t be zoned residential and noise won’t have to stop at 10pm.  One can only hope.  I am also waiting for a call back from a small art gallery in town.  It used to be a church, so it is a big two story building with the cathedral ceilings and such……  but it is decorated fun & funky like.  I’d really like to have it someplace like that if it will fit the budget.  Time will tell on that one.  If I can’t get it, we’ll make the hall look bad ass.

Other than that, not much is going on………… just another manic Monday…………… er, wait…………. it’s Friday.  My lady is coming this weekend………. super excited.  I haven’t seen her in about a week and a half and I miss her like crazy.  This weekend is also Taylor’s birthday party.  My other lady is turning 6! Woo-hoo! Time to celebrate.

So many wonderful things happening this year, one can’t help but feel blessed.

Anyway- I am off to take a bubble bath and think about doing the dishes.  Somehow in my own little world, that counts as housework.  After all, they always say it’s the thought that counts.


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